Who presents this woman in marriage?

Groom, please bring your Bride.

Guests may be seated.

Welcome!

Today we are gathered to witness and celebrate the wedding of Groom & Bride and the beginning of a new partnership between two people who are very much in love.

This wedding unites two lives in the miracle of love. It combines old traditions with new meaning. It joins two families and creates a new one. It brings together the unique qualities of two very special people and multiplies their joys for all the days that lie ahead in their new roles as husband and wife.

They believe that every future endeavor will be more fruitful and joyous because of their love and commitment to each other.

For Groom and Bride their marriage will be a partnership, building upon this love and commitment. This day will mark the beginning of a new phase of their lives, today it is the start of their story.

Marriage is the uniting of two people and a journey towards the unity of two hearts. It thrives on the love and respect that you have for each other and grows deeper as each of you grows older. May you never forget this special day and may your hearts be blessed as you often reflect on it.

Marriage itself was ordained by God at the point of creation. Genesis 2:24 states “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”

Our Lord, Jesus Christ blessed this sacred union by His presence at a wedding in Cana in Galilee. It was here that he performed his first miracle by changing the water into wine.

Perhaps this is deeply symbolic … that in marriage we have the opportunity to learn to change our more personal, selfish love into the richness and warmth of a more mature love, a greater love that is all-encompassing, compassionate, unselfish, respectful and unconditional.

Opening Prayer

“Father, we come before you at this time to lift up Bride and Groom, please guide them and protect them as they begin their story. May you draw them close to you, may you be the rock and foundation of this marriage, and may the lifetime of their marriage, be as beautiful as the day of this wedding.”

~Amen

Vows

Marriage begins in the giving of words. We cannot join ourselves to one another without giving our word. And this must be an unconditional giving, for in joining ourselves to one another, we are making a commitment to share all of life’s possibilities.

Groom, Bride, will you please stand and face each other.

Personal Vows

Groom Personal Vows:

Bride Personal Vows:

Traditional Vows

Groom, please repeat after me:

I Groom take you Bride to be my wife | to have and to hold from this day forward | for better or for worse | for richer or for poorer | in sickness and in health | forsaking all others | to love and to cherish you | for as long as we both shall live

If this is your promise before God & these witnesses, please say I do.

Bride please repeat after me:

I Bride take you Groom to be my husband | to have and to hold from this day forward | for better or for worse | for richer or for poorer | in sickness and in health | forsaking all others | to love and respect you | for as long as we both shall live

If this is your promise before God & these witnesses, please say I do.

Ring Exchange

May I have the rings please?

The wedding rings are an outward and visible sign not only to you, but to those around you of the inward and spiritual commitments that you are making here today.

Groom, as you place this ring on Bride’s finger please repeat after me:

Bride, with this ring I thee wed | I give you my promise | from this day forward you shall not walk alone. | My arms are your shelter; my heart is your home. | Wear this ring always | as a reminder of my love and commitment to you.

Bride, as you place this ring on Groom’s finger please repeat after me:

Groom, with this ring I thee wed | I give you my promise | from this day forward you shall not walk alone. | My arms are your shelter; my heart is your home. | Wear this ring always | as a reminder of my love and commitment to you.

I would like each of you, at this moment to lean across each other and whisper a promise that you will keep for the rest of your lives.

May the two of you, fulfill this covenant, which you have made to each other. May you easily give and take from one another and encourage each other in whatever roads unfold ahead. May you be open to trust and welcome all the beauty and wonder that your story will hold.

Wine Ceremony with Communion

To symbolize and celebrate this marriage, Groom & Bride have chosen to partake in the wine ceremony and to take communion together.

 It is rumored that the wine ceremony began in Italy whenever the children of two vineyard owners were married.

Your marriage relationship is symbolized through the pouring of the two individual vessels of wine, one representing you, Groom and all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be, and the other representing you, Bride, and all that you were and all that you are, and all that you will ever be.

As these two vessels of wine are poured into the third vessel, the individual vessels of wine will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one.

Wine has a very unique property. Generally, anything physical becomes weaker as time goes on. Food decomposes, buildings crumble, and clothes wear out, however one exception is wine.

 The ability for wine to age well is influenced by several factors including the grape variety, vintage, wine region and even winemaking style.

This too is true in marriage. You each brought different variety to your marriage, different personalities, and perhaps different upbringings.

As with the wine, these different aspects of your personalities will combine and blend over time, will create a marriage that will mature, and grow stronger as time goes on.

Communion

As well as the wine ceremony, Groom and Bride have chosen to take their very first communion as husband and wife in your presence to acknowledge the place that their spiritual commitments will continue to have in their new life together.

As the wine ceremony represents the blending of two lives, in observing Communion we are remembering Jesus Christ and all that He has done for us in his life, death and resurrection:

1 Corinthians 11:24 “And when he had given thanks, he broke it and said, "This is my body, which is for you; do this in remembrance of me."

When we observe Communion we are also showing our participation in the body of Christ. His life becomes our life and we become members of each others:

1 Corinthians 10:16-17 "Is not the cup of thanksgiving for which we give thanks a participation in the blood of Christ? And is not the bread that we break a participation in the body of Christ? Because there is one loaf, we, who are many, are one body, for we all partake of the one loaf."

Groom, Bride, The taking of communion together, especially when remembering the life and sacrifice of Jesus Christ, ensures that we do not forget that we are all one body, one blood, and one spirit, and that the breaking of bread and sharing of a cup is more than nourishment or the quenching of thirst, but the sharing of ourselves.

Groom, I challenge you to make communion a part of the Spiritual relationship that you will have with your new bride.

Charge

As a Christian couple it is important that your marriage be built upon the solid foundation of your individual relationships with Jesus Christ. As believers God has given you a very specific road map for marriage. Although not always easy, it is very clear, it is very powerful and it is very rewarding.

I would like to read God’s commands to you as a Christian Husband and Wife.

Ephesians 5:33 “A husband also must love his wife. He must love her just as he loves himself. And a wife must respect her husband.

An interesting fact here is that God does not command us to do something that we do naturally; he does not command us to breathe, or love ourselves, as we do that automatically.

Groom

It is natural for you to love Bride, or you would not be here today. The unnatural part of Gods command is that you love her “as you love yourself”, not when it’s warranted, not when it’s easy, not when she “deserves it”. Love her always and love her unconditionally.

Your responsibility & accountability just went way up as well! A very powerful way to show love to Bride is to have a strong relationship with Jesus. This will give her an unbelievable amount of comfort and peace.

Always remember that before Bride is your wife she is God’s daughter!

Bride

As a Christian woman, you are called by God to respect for your husband. Respect is a little word that has huge implications to a man. God built man to crave respect, just as you crave love. Unfortunately this is often overlooked in society today.

The Beatles sang “all you need is love”. But actually that’s not the case, you need love and respect.

Learn what respect looks like to Groom and reflect that to him in daily living, and as Groom is called to show you unconditional love, you are called to show him unconditional respect.

One of the most personal gifts that you can ever give Groom is yourself. You have nothing more precious to give. Now that your married, give Groom your best self and your whole self as completely as you can.

Close

One of the greatest joys I have as a Pastor is standing in front of you and looking into your eyes as you make one of the most important commitments that you will ever make in your life.

One of the reasons is that I know what’s ahead for you, the romantic love which brings the two of you to the marriage altar today - is not that which successful marriages are built upon.

The kind of love that is truly binding is that love which you will develop during the course of a lifetime together. It has little to do with romance and it has everything to do with commitment and unselfishness.

This love is something that you can’t even put into words, people say marriage is hard work, yes it is… but the rewards of the love I have just described far exceeds any work that is put into getting there.

A successful marriage is not defined by the absence of conflict, it is defined by the presence of commitment, and it manages the conflict in loving and appropriate ways.

In the times that you do not see eye-to-eye, you must continue to communicate, you must continue to have an unselfish heart, you must continue to respect each other’s opinions and you must continue to give unconditional love & respect.

I would like to read for you what God's description of the perfect love in your marriage should look like. I especially like this passage because it not only tells us what love is, it tells us what love is not.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.”

My prayer for you is that you use this description of perfect love as the measuring rod of your love for one another during the course of your lifetime together.

Pronouncement

Over the years you have called each other many things, companion, friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, fiancé, but today for the first time, you will call each other husband and wife.

By the authority vested in me by the State of California... I now pronounce you husband and wife.

Groom, you may kiss your beautiful Bride.

Will you now please turn toward your family and friends.

It is my great pleasure to congratulate and introduce to you for the very first time…

Mr. and Mrs. Groom & Bride Last Name

Sample Faith Based Ceremony